why dads

Some things that I really dont understand?
Why is it that "some" dads feel like they have to make the mother of their children struggle?
They have to make there life harder then it already is. Life is hard all on its own. For both moms and dads so why do the father have to make it so hard to get along? help financiall? and plan out just be pleasent to one in other?
Again If there are men reading this I did say some man!
I have notice through out the years when my friends would split up, the women have the children, and the father are suppose to pay child support and get there visitations,
Do you know if you paid the proper amount of child support to the mother, and make the mothers life just that much easier? the mother would be more then happy to reply the gratitude right back at you ...
Also, If the mothers life is not that stressful with the finances the children get better parents.
Mothers can function the way the mother should...OK again I must say "some" sorry ladies I have to look at both sides here even know I am on your side because I have the father of my children NOT paying child support for both of his children and really holds a grug against me.

BUT ANYWAYS> If the father would hold up to the financial responsibility the mother can really create a great up bring for the child. and that is what really counts.
If the father of my children stepped up to the plate and paid his share of child support .... boy life would be so much more better for my children ... Its not really about the money as much as it is about the stress relief... When mothers don't feel the stress the CHILD don't either. "children mirror the emotions of the mother, even if the mother doesn't think they can tell!!! (at lest we have people to vent on . children dont have anyone to talk to )

I would be able to give more to her take her place more often. and them kinds of things are great for the child. Providing for the children is key to have healthy children... Not just financial, EMOTIONALLY also dont ripe apart the other parent, you have to remember the 1/2 of your children it the other person... So that make the child feel 1/2 of them is bad!!! thats not the case so why do we make a conscience choose to do that?

I myself do not do that only because I have risen about him . and will not allow him to get under my skin.. I made a choose to have feels of controlled non emotion thoughts. Yep NUM! but speak with respect about him to my children and with my children I always tell them that daddy loves them. that he misses them when he is not with them. that he is the best dad ever, " even know I may see things different then she does" Dad is the best to her!

But will all being said... I have to say I love being a single mom. I love my children so much that I enjoy everything about being a stay at home mom. I choose to have them and I am more then willing to sacifice ever finacial struggle that comes to me, so I can stay HOME with them...
boy what it does to the heart strings... makes me not want anything else but being a mom!

I am gratefull!